what do you think about a psychiatrist who needs to make lots of jokes and tell lots of anecdotes?
March 30th, 2009
pseudonymn asked:
where i am, insurance only pays for 30 minutes and doc is not open to 1 h every 2 weeks. for me, talking 30 minutes makes it hard to get to something important, deep. all the more so in that the psy tends to keep making jokes or telling anecdotes, not tons, but systematically. a little tidbit or two every session. example: i’m nourished by nature, but due to my work, finances and singleness it’s hard for me to be llive out of the city and it’s hard for me to feel well thus. he quotes some writer, with humor about how they should move cities to the country. at one of first sessions after answering questions about family, at end he told some totally unconnected anecdote about someone who invested in wine where i used to live and drank it all. he’s 15 years older than me, so i’m thinking that perhaps there’s a risk that he’s unconsiously putting in a little charm factor—not sure if it’s worth continuing. feels somewhat superficial and when i get slightly deep, out comes a joke.
last session i tried to offer the suggestion of an hour every 2 weeks to get a sense of deeper work but he said it didn’t work with his schedule; so i feel like i’m gonna be tagged as complainer if i bring up an issue for second consecutive week. not sure that it’s doing much good. a bit of chest getting off of but not so deep.
don’t think he’s trying to hit on me, but think it could be unconscious charming, human as we all are. that’s just the way life is.
loosening meaning joking around not so useful, i do that all the time in regular life, don’t need to see a psy to joke around. need depth.
i hesitate to change because i’m living in a foreign country where they tend to be much more old style and he’s not that bad. i think he is just being himself; if we had an hour i might be ok w the joking but with 30 minutes it’s a bit tough to get deep if we go for the jokes whenever it gets serious.
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where i am, insurance only pays for 30 minutes and doc is not open to 1 h every 2 weeks. for me, talking 30 minutes makes it hard to get to something important, deep. all the more so in that the psy tends to keep making jokes or telling anecdotes, not tons, but systematically. a little tidbit or two every session. example: i’m nourished by nature, but due to my work, finances and singleness it’s hard for me to be llive out of the city and it’s hard for me to feel well thus. he quotes some writer, with humor about how they should move cities to the country. at one of first sessions after answering questions about family, at end he told some totally unconnected anecdote about someone who invested in wine where i used to live and drank it all. he’s 15 years older than me, so i’m thinking that perhaps there’s a risk that he’s unconsiously putting in a little charm factor—not sure if it’s worth continuing. feels somewhat superficial and when i get slightly deep, out comes a joke.
last session i tried to offer the suggestion of an hour every 2 weeks to get a sense of deeper work but he said it didn’t work with his schedule; so i feel like i’m gonna be tagged as complainer if i bring up an issue for second consecutive week. not sure that it’s doing much good. a bit of chest getting off of but not so deep.
don’t think he’s trying to hit on me, but think it could be unconscious charming, human as we all are. that’s just the way life is.
loosening meaning joking around not so useful, i do that all the time in regular life, don’t need to see a psy to joke around. need depth.
i hesitate to change because i’m living in a foreign country where they tend to be much more old style and he’s not that bad. i think he is just being himself; if we had an hour i might be ok w the joking but with 30 minutes it’s a bit tough to get deep if we go for the jokes whenever it gets serious.
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